"How much influence would you allow others to have on you?"
This one comes from the “If” Project. New questions posted every month.
If family or friends had issues with the one you are romantically involved with, would you listen? How much influence would you allow others to have on your relationship?
Definitely, I’d listen. I may completely disregard their comments, but I’ll listen. If nothing else, it would alert me to new pitfalls to avoid with family members.
My immediate family is fairly live and let live. They trust me not to be a complete assface when it comes to choosing my friends, associates, and what have you. If one of them had something to say to me about someone with whom I was romantically involved, chances are it would be a rather important something: like “he just made a pass at my girlfriend, I don’t think he’s completely straightforward with you” or “I remember seeing him last week on ‘Cops’.” I was engaged to a guy who was of a different ethnic background, and after I’d been dating him a year, my dear aunt was heard to remark to my mother, “Oh, you mean she’s still dating one of -=them=-?” (Of course, this is the same aunt who urged her son to dump a girl because the girl had cervical cancer and wouldn’t be able to bear his children; so in retrospect it’s really not too surprising.)
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